As time passes.... it teaches !

Over the time, I realized.....

Life just moves on, it is upto us how to live or just allow it to go by.  Holding on to things just doesn't help and one has to move in the present or the present changes into past with a blink.


Shifting to this new house has changed my life.  Settling down is taking more time than I expected.   Tired and exhausted, getting things done one after the other.  Packing and unpacking is one of the nightmares, but it also has a positive side.  While the packers packed it I only thought how much had to be packed and while I unpacked boxes after boxes I realised how many things I had stocked over the years.  While some of the things are going to be used here the rest will be disposed to the needy.  

Waiting for things to get back to routine.  I plan to use my spare time for something constructive, other than housework.  After so many years, settling down is not only an achievement but also fulfilling a dream.


Looking back...... what I achieved over the years, is made me what I am today
Difficult times ..... when you are all alone fighting battles things seem endless
For me  ................ with every ending a new chapter began........ still going on
Different  times... while the situations changed the struggle to live a better life is on

"Leharon ka kya bharosa.
Kinaron pe aake dum todh deti hai
Apno se kya shikayat kare.
Jab ek modh pe aake......... parchayee bhi saath chodh deti hai….."

thoughts on a rainy day.....

Its been raining heavily since yesterday, the luscious trees and its long branches are trying to reach in through the window of my room.  The sudden heavy shower has cooled down the heat which in the last few days was like standing in front of bon fire.

Love watching the view outside but missing few things, 
like my friends.... the sharing of day to day things, with a cup of tea.  Nowadays everyone is busy with their life & its small yet life size problems.

Few years back life was different........  back then, taking my kiddo to school, coping with his homework, bringing up the little bundle of joy to a young adult was enjoyment of life.  Those days I never thought of any view or the beautiful trees or heavy rain-showers.

Life revolved only around my kid, his interest, likes, dislikes, homework, classes & extra curricular activity.  Nothing else mattered.


Today he has a life of his own, watching him grow up, take decisions, give excuses for bunking college, night outs, partying with friends...... working towards his dreams....... is a different life altogether. 


Back then there was no time & lots to do, today lots of time & very little to do.  Guess thats life.

Now my family feels I should do something to keep myself busy, go out with friends, jus cook & be around only when they need me.  Funny, isn't it?
[Its easier said than done.. ]

When I could or wanted to have some time for myself, I was reminded of all my duties towards family.  Wifely duties, motherly duties......... etc etc.


The worst thing is most of my friends have a similar life.

Its very difficult to switch on & off according to others needs, especially when you give up your dreams, desires and stop living for yourself, sometimes even forgetting what you enjoyed eating or cooking a dish which you enjoyed most.

After a long gap one has to really think hard........ my life  ?????? what I liked/enjoyed ........ do I still want the same things or do they even matter any more?

I feel more like an old yet valuable art....... cannot be thrown as there are some sentiments attached to it, with time its colour has faded yet has to be retained........for, may get appreaciated again some day.

Smile

A SMILE costs nothing, but gives much.  It enriches those who receive, without making poorer those who give.  It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.  None is so rich or mighty that s/he can get along without it, and none is so poor but that s/he can be made rich by it.

A SMILE creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in business, and is the countersign of friendship.  It brings rest to the weary, cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and it is nature's best antidote for 'trouble'. Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away.

Some people are too tired to give you a "SMILE" Give them one of yours, as none needs a "SMILE" so much as s/he who has no more to give. :) :)

few shayari's i enjoyed reading

Shero-shayari - ....... beautifully expressed..... .

Kuch rishte uparwale banate hai,
Kuch rishte log banate hai,
Kuch log bina kisi rishte ke hi rishte nibhate hai,
Shayad vahi dost kahlate hai.
 

Jinki aankhen aansuon se namm nahi,
Kya samajhte ho unhe koi gham nahi?

Tum tadap kar roh diye toh kya hua?
Gham chhupa ke bhi hasne waale kam nahi…

Geet ki zaroorat mehfil mein hoti hai
Pyar ki zaroorat dil mein hoti hai
Bin dosti ke adhuri hai yeh zindagi
Kyunki dost ki zaroorat har pal mehsus hoti hai

Taaron ko ginne waley hum na the,
akele gungunane waley hum na the,
yeh to apki dosti ne aadat laga di…
warna kisi ko itna yaad karne wale hum na the…

Har khushi dil ke karib nahi hoti,
zindagi gamo se dur nahi hoti,
aye dost is dosti ko sanjokar rakhna,
aisi dosti har kisi ko nasib nahi hoti

Sitaron ke aage bhi koi jahan hoga,
Jo na dekha kabhi woh sama hoga,
Us jahan ke saare hasin nazaron ki kasam,
Aap sa pyara dost dusra kahan hoga….

Phool bankar muskrana zindagi hai…,
Muskara ke gum bhulana zindagi hai…,
Milkar log khush hote hai to kya hua….,
Bina mile dosti nibhana bhi Zindagi hai…

Dil ki hasti mit gayi hoti,
aur sare dard badh gaye hote,
zindagi aap jaise dosto ki amanat hai,
varna hum to kab ke bikhar gaye hote..

Zindagi me bar-bar ye mukam aaye,
tum hamare hum tumhare kaam aaye,
bus itni dua hai bhagwan se,
ki har janam mein tumhare 
friend list mein hamara naam aaye

tadapti nazro ne har pal unka didar manga ,

 jaise amavas ne har raat chand manga ,

 ruth gaye khuda bhi humse ,

jab humne apni har dua mein
 unka sath manga

Life is passing by.............

Life is passing by like the 'day after night'
Life is passing by...........

With a long list of things
that remains undone,
Life is passing by........


Thoughts of pain & loneliness
that cannot be undone,
Life is passing by.......


Avoiding friends & relatives
that feeling of unpleasantness 
moments that passed by.....


The emptiness of life
replaced by the distance
nothing can replace it now
as Life is passing by......

Strangers from wilderness
touched my heart & soul
with a feeling of dearness
left me asking why?


Life is passing by...........

Are we true supporters?

Last few months have been the busiest time of my life.  Renovating my house, planning and executing the work was one of the toughest things I have experienced.


As I was handling it all on my own, the attitude of the contrator and workers was the worst thing I came across.  They hardly have any respect for a woman and the attitude is we can bully you easily.  Thanks to internet, I cross checked a few sites on what I wanted and how to go about it.  Finally got the work done, though had to change few contractors for their arrogance.


One thing I learned life is not easy, you have to be tough, rude sometimes to get the work done or people take you for a ride.  Men think that if a women is getting some work done alone they can cheat easily.  But it was a life time experience, managed to get the work from them.


Why do people have to always think of cheating rather than deliver the work they are asked to do, after all they are getting paid for that work.


Cheating, corruption, bribery has become part of most peoples life today.  One has to put up a fight every-time, everywhere to get anything done.  Things are going from bad to worst. Guess that's why its called Kalyug.


Today one man is putting up fight by 'fasting unto death' against corruption.  Many people from different States have come forward to support him.  But the fact is the fight is not just against those corrupt leaders, it is against CORRUPTION and many among those supporters are the reason why corruption has reached this level.  


One doesn't have to go on the street to show their support for the cause, they can just stop bribing, taking bribe or cheating others. 


Paying huge cash donations in school, or bribing the police when breaking law, or taking cuts under table on work contracts so many ways of looting.  One has to just say no, not any more, that will be the biggest support for the cause.  We know Anna Hazare is a clean man with a good intention but is every body else who is supporting with the same conscious​?

We all should be a part of this cause, but at the same time ensure we are not on the wrong side of the fence, doing things what he is fighting for.