It may sound weird when one reads this but it is a reality :
Do we ever realise how many things we accumulate in our lifetime... hoping to use them some day. And when we die the people we care have to clear all those things we accumulated...?
My dads death changed my perspective towards life and death, like I said 'journey of Life and Death both are equally important'.
My dad probably knew his end was nearing so he sorted and disposed off most of his things, kept only a handful of things so as not to trouble us. Some of the papers he meticulously kept was difficult to understand as it was not relevant to us, we are still trying to understand them. Our childhood photos (album) kept in the bunch of papers which we had never seen in the many years, my mom's one saree, her old purse, guess he liked my mom in that saree but her old purse? These few things surprised us, but no answers?
I miss him, everything reminds me of him and our childhood. The good old days when we visited the beaches, gardens and enjoyed mom's delicious cooking. Probably he too missed that ! Wish he had shared those feelings openly with us. His conservative way of life never allowed him to speak openly.
The positive side to all this is :-
I have started sorting out my accumulated things. Things we think are important to us may not have the same perspective and importance with time. Priorities and interests change from generation to generation. It is not disrespect, but due to different interests it is not easy to understand the interests and dealings of others.
eg: Our childhood interests of collecting marbles, posters, sea shells change with time but as we grow up .............We replace them with new interests, don't we? Then how can it be disrespect when others do it?
: Or -Certain books may be very valuable to a person who is a Professor, but the same may not be valued by other members of family who are not associated with that subject.
: Or - Old Crockeries, show peices etc may be seen as junk by few whereas it may be a valuable thing for the household woman.
So if we all give a thought to this, we may have plenty to dispose and lot to donate and we can save the trouble to our loving family members, after us. If we start now, there may still be plenty of things left to clear for them when our time comes, as the human tendency to posses cannot be overcome easily.
thanks dad for the valuable and unspoken thought........ miss you!
Do we ever realise how many things we accumulate in our lifetime... hoping to use them some day. And when we die the people we care have to clear all those things we accumulated...?
My dads death changed my perspective towards life and death, like I said 'journey of Life and Death both are equally important'.
My dad probably knew his end was nearing so he sorted and disposed off most of his things, kept only a handful of things so as not to trouble us. Some of the papers he meticulously kept was difficult to understand as it was not relevant to us, we are still trying to understand them. Our childhood photos (album) kept in the bunch of papers which we had never seen in the many years, my mom's one saree, her old purse, guess he liked my mom in that saree but her old purse? These few things surprised us, but no answers?
I miss him, everything reminds me of him and our childhood. The good old days when we visited the beaches, gardens and enjoyed mom's delicious cooking. Probably he too missed that ! Wish he had shared those feelings openly with us. His conservative way of life never allowed him to speak openly.
The positive side to all this is :-
I have started sorting out my accumulated things. Things we think are important to us may not have the same perspective and importance with time. Priorities and interests change from generation to generation. It is not disrespect, but due to different interests it is not easy to understand the interests and dealings of others.
eg: Our childhood interests of collecting marbles, posters, sea shells change with time but as we grow up .............We replace them with new interests, don't we? Then how can it be disrespect when others do it?
: Or -Certain books may be very valuable to a person who is a Professor, but the same may not be valued by other members of family who are not associated with that subject.
: Or - Old Crockeries, show peices etc may be seen as junk by few whereas it may be a valuable thing for the household woman.
So if we all give a thought to this, we may have plenty to dispose and lot to donate and we can save the trouble to our loving family members, after us. If we start now, there may still be plenty of things left to clear for them when our time comes, as the human tendency to posses cannot be overcome easily.
thanks dad for the valuable and unspoken thought........ miss you!
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