Should a girl child be aborted ? Save a girl child ?

Do we really save her when people don't abort the female feotus........ many a times I wonder if it is true, is giving birth enough, does it end the problem, having an unwanted child, thrust upon by nature, law, ......... to a family who longs for a child (son) ?

Being a girl/women I feel it is not enough to just give birth until one fully accepts her as equal human, if not, saving a girl child is meaningless.

"Life of a girl child........... the fight begins, first during the pregnancy detection, if she passes that stage, then at birth, pedas instead of ladoos, it's a girl :( , sometimes that is also forgotten, then starts the expenses and compromise, 'as she has to get married to someone'."

The parents, treat her like a unwanted burden as she grows, blame her for losses incurred in life, watching them the other male/female members, brothers, uncles, aunts, neighbors don't hesitate to share the same treatment with her.

Only she is asked to compromise, take responsibilities, cooking, cleaning, live within means as a temporary member who has to go away to her husbands home.
Unlucky, when she marries someone who shares her parents thoughts, that a wife's place is only staying within the four walls and bearing sons as heirs . If not she is abused, silenced or shunned for ever.

Now a days parents come forward to lodge police complain in regard to their daughter's dowry death, are they not equally to blame for her death?  Did they not teach her to accept abuse and compromise on life each day?

Had they supported her and treated her as equal would she have been a victim?

As the brother's never see or realise her equal rights as human and her need to be respected and cared for, they continue to treat her with hatred and disregard.

Funny thing is as boys grow, they are attracted towards other girls who is someone's daughter and many a times during marriage they fight for dowry and wife's right in her parents property for equal share. 

Why doesn't that thought come with their own sister ?? when it comes to her, why is it that she doesn't have any rights? Who is to blame for this ?
  
There isn't a day when news channels report a women abuse in some form. In India almost every house a girl is abused in the form of daughter, sister, wife, only each day she fights just to live for another day of abuse.

Isn't it time we care, educate her for equal opportunities respect her as human and a future partner ? instead of seeing her as a burden or threat.  Aren't boys looking for a compatible partner in a wife ?? 

Peace is when time doesn't matter as it passes by......

youth is a gift of nature

but age is work of art

 

At 20 yrs of age

the will reigns

at 30 the wit

and 40 the judgement

 

the aging process

is a lot like grapes

some turn to vinegar

but the best turn to wine

 

You are as young as your self-confidence

and as old as your despair

In this life the old believe everything

the middle-aged suspect everything

and the young know everything

The longer we live the more we learn 

it is not who has the most

it is who makes the most of what he has

You have only to mumble a few words in church to get married

and 

a few words in your sleep to get divorced

 

It is up to us whether age brings wisdom

or age comes alone

just humour :)

 Quick wit
A woman and a man are involved in a car accident; it's a bad one. Both of their cars are totally demolished but amazingly neither of them is hurt.

After they crawl out of their cars, the woman says, "So you're a man, that's interesting. I'm a woman. Wow, just look at our cars! There's nothing left, but we're unhurt. This must be a sign from God that we should meet and be friends and live together in peace for the rest of our days".

Flattered, the man replied, "Oh yes, I agree with you completely! "This must be a sign from God!"

The woman continued, "and look at this, here's another miracle. My car is completely demolished but this bottle of wine didn't break. Surely God wants us to drink this wine and celebrate our good fortune."

Then she hands the bottle to the man. The man nods his head in agreement, opens it and drinks half the bottle and then hands it back to the woman.

The woman takes the bottle and immediately puts the cap back on, and hands it back to the man.
The man asks, "Aren't you having any?"
The woman replies, "No. I think I'll just wait for the police 
***** 

Sexual Assault !
A couple goes on vacation to a fishing resort. The husband likes to fish at the crack of dawn. The wife likes to read. One morning the husband returns after several hours of fishing and decides to take a nap. Although not familiar with the lake, the wife decides to take the boat out. She motors out a short distance, anchors, and continues to read her book.

Along comes a game warden in his boat. He pulls up alongside the woman and says, "Good morning Ma'am. What are you doing?"

"Reading a book," she replies.

"You're in a restricted fishing area," he informs her.

"I'm sorry officer, but I'm not fishing, I'm reading." "Yes, but you have all the equipment. For all I know you could start at any moment. I'll have to take you in and write you up."

"If you do that, I'll have to charge you with sexual assault," says the woman.
"But I haven't even touched you," says the game warden. "That's true, but you have all the equipment. For all I know you could start at any moment." 

​Have a nice day ma’am and he left…..

***** 
APARTMENT for RENT .....

A businessman met a beautiful girl and agreed to spend the night with her for $500.  Morning,  before he left, he told her that he did not have any cash with him, but he would have his secretary write a check and mail it to her, calling the payment 'RENT FOR APARTMENT.'

On the way to the office, he regretted what he had done, realizing that the whole event had not been worth the price. So he had his secretary send a check for $250 and enclose the following typed note:

'Dear Madam:
Enclosed find a check for $250 for rent of your apartment . I am not sending the amount agreed upon, because when I rented the place, I was under the impression that:

1 - it had never been occupied;
2 - there was plenty of heat; and
3 - it was small enough to make me feel cozy and at home.

    However, I found out that:
1. it had been previously occupied,
2. there wasn't any heat, and
3 - it was entirely too large.'

    Upon receipt of the note, the girl immediately returned the check  of $250 with the following note:-

"Dear Sir: 

I cannot understand how you could expect a beautiful apartment to remain unoccupied indefinitely.

• As for the heat, there is plenty of it, if you know how to turn it on.
• Regarding the space, the apartment is indeed of regular size, but if you don't have enough furniture to fill it, please do not blame the management. ​ ​

So please send the rent in full or we will be forced to contact your present landlady….."

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Who Says Men Don't Remember Anniversaries
A woman awakes during the night to find that her husband was not in their bed.

She puts on her robe and goes downstairs to look for him. She finds him sitting at the kitchen table with a cup of coffee in front him. He appears deep in thought, just staring at the wall. She watches as he wipes a tear from his eye and takes a sip of coffee.

"What's the matter, dear?" she whispers as she steps into the room. "Why are you down here at this time of night?"

The husband looks up, "Do you remember 20 years ago when we were dating, and
you were only 17?" he asks solemnly.

The wife is touched thinking her husband is so caring and sensitive. "Yes, I do," she replies.

The husband pauses. The words are not coming easily. "Do you remember when
you father caught us in the back seat of my car?"

"Yes, I remember," says the wife, lowering herself into a chair beside him.

The husband continues..."Do you remember when he shoved a shotgun in my face and said, "Either you marry my daughter, or I will send you to jail for 20 years".
"I remember that too", she replies softly.

He wipes another tear from his cheek and says... "I would have gotten out today!"
  

Condoms For Every Man
A man walks into a drug store with his 8-year old son. They happen to walk by the condom display, and the boy asks, "What's are these, Dad?"

To which the man replies, "Those are called condoms, son. Men use them to have safe sex."

"Oh I see," replied the boy pensively. "Yes, I've heard of that in health class at school."

He looks over the display and picks up a package of 3 and asks, "Why are there 3 in this package?"

The dad replies, "Those are for high-school boys. One for Friday, one for Saturday, and one for Sunday."

"Cool!" says the boy. He notices a 6-pack and asks, "Then who are these for?"

"Those are for college men," The dad answers, "TWO for Friday, TWO for Saturday, and TWO for Sunday."

"WOW!" exclaimed the boy. "Then who uses THESE?" he asks, picking up a 12-pack.

With a sigh, the dad replied, "Those are for married men. One for January, one for February, one for March..." 

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Most Relationships fail not because of the absence of love..
Love is always present..
Its just that,
One loves too much,   and  The other loves too many

​​

Say 'goodbye' so you can say 'hello'

beautiful thoughts help move on with life..............

 

Be the leader of your own journey :  There are many capable people who don’t pursue their dreams and goals because they let their fears and others talk them out of it. They give up before they even try.
 
Choose to be stronger than that. Choose to do things in life that move you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands. Not you.
 
Think you Can:  If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.  But change breeds growth.  So when a goal seems big and a plan looks tough, just push through it, and the next thing you need to do will look possible.

In the end, you will succeed because you’re crazy enough to think you can.

You are closer than you were yesterday: The moment you’re ready to quit is usually the moment right before a little miracle of progress happens. 

So don’t give up. You were strong enough to get this far; you are strong enough to take another step.
 
You are frequently forced to sacrifice your happiness: If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it.  Know when to close the account. 
 
It’s always better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect.  
 
You are never given a chance to speak your mind: Sometimes an argument saves a relationship, whereas silence breaks it. 

Speak up for your heart so that you won’t have regrets.
 
Life is still good : You may have seen better days and worse.  You might not have all your wants, but you do have all your needs.  You woke up with a few aches and pains, but you woke up.

Your life may not be perfect, but it is good.  And good things come down the road as long as you keep moving forward.
 
What you have learned is what’s important :  Life always offers you a second chance – it’s called tomorrow.  But this second chance doesn’t mean anything if you haven’t learned from the events of today.  You have to acknowledge your troubles but gather strength from them, laugh at your mistakes but learn from them. 

Getting a second chance in life is about giving yourself the opportunity to grow beyond your past failures.  It’s about learning as you go and positively adjusting your attitude and efforts toward future possibilities.
 
Not every relationship is meant to last forever :  Some people aren’t meant to stay in your life.  Some people are just passing through to bring you something – perhaps a lesson you need to learn, or memory that makes you smile years later.  

When the time comes, it’s okay to let go and move on with your life.
 
Pain helps you grow : Sometimes you must break a little so you can get a peek inside to see what an awesome powerhouse you are.  Sometimes mistakes must be made so wisdom can be earned.  Sometimes you must overcome heartache so you can begin to follow your heart again.

Sometimes things must change so you can change.
 
Say “goodbye” so you can say “hello” : In life, goodbyes are a gift.  When certain people walk away from you, and certain opportunities close their doors on you, there is no need to hold onto them or pray to keep them present in your life.  If they close you out, take it as a direct indication that these people, circumstances and opportunities are not part of the plan for the next step of your life.  It’s a hint that your personal growth requires someone different and something more, and life is simply making room.  

So embrace your goodbyes, because every “goodbye” you receive sets you up for an even better “hello.”