I have been pondering over a issue for some time now..... Men: not about men, but their different attitude and perception for wife...!.
Many a times when ladies talk on personal issues one topic is always common, 'husband'...... his attitude towards his wife.....family and friends.
One common issue: most men treat their wife with disrespect and take her for granted. They always feel it is wife's duty to do all the house-hold chores no matter what. It is her duty to take care of the children on weekdays and weekends too, as they are working and require a off on a weekend. Also she should take care of friends and relatives who visit on weekends/days.
Marriage is the only war in which you sleep with the enemy. All marriages are happy. It's living together afterwards that is difficult.
while men work 9am -5/8 pm, women slog from 5 am to 11/12 pm with no weekends as it starts with breakfast, tiffin and ends with dinner, cleaning and finishing the kitchen work.
once a child is born, the whole responsibility to take care of the house/child/expenses is solely of the women.......... no opinion taken or questions asked?
how about a weekend off for her and some appreciation or acknowledging the burden of work transferred on her and sharing it. well.... what happened to the sharing of responsibility for a beautiful future ?
They leave their wife to do the household chores ....... but appreciate the girls/women who are not/yet in that category or those who have simply walked out asking the helpers (aayas) to take over.
But when it comes to following the same (helper take over), then the question is of healthy environment and children's upbringing that matters and of-course the expense.
"People always think that the most painful thing is losing the one you love in your life. The truth is, the most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, forgetting that you are special too."
Today women are well educated and earn handsomely and can take care of children. They earn more or equivalent to men and can do well on their own. Yet for the sake of children most women give in and tolerate, not because they like it but as they do not wish to break their family or hurt their children.
But the younger girls (today's generation) are smart enough to walk out at the first step and prefer to be on their own. Most girls prefer late marriage or prefer to be independent financially, keeping an open option for themselves .
here's a piece of article I read and would like to share:-
Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons.
"Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40,........ there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old.
Many a times when ladies talk on personal issues one topic is always common, 'husband'...... his attitude towards his wife.....family and friends.
One common issue: most men treat their wife with disrespect and take her for granted. They always feel it is wife's duty to do all the house-hold chores no matter what. It is her duty to take care of the children on weekdays and weekends too, as they are working and require a off on a weekend. Also she should take care of friends and relatives who visit on weekends/days.
Marriage is the only war in which you sleep with the enemy. All marriages are happy. It's living together afterwards that is difficult.
The common reasons given by most husbands -
since I am working and taking care of expenses it is your duty to do the household chores and take care of the kids....... whereas .....at the time of marriage the demand is for a well educated, working girl who can share the responsibilities for a beautiful future......?
the common response is: I work in office,..... true,.......... but don't you have other subordinates to share your work with and don't you ask for appreciation, promotion, increments and holidays? do you offer any of these to your wife?
while men work 9am -5/8 pm, women slog from 5 am to 11/12 pm with no weekends as it starts with breakfast, tiffin and ends with dinner, cleaning and finishing the kitchen work.
once a child is born, the whole responsibility to take care of the house/child/expenses is solely of the women.......... no opinion taken or questions asked?
how about a weekend off for her and some appreciation or acknowledging the burden of work transferred on her and sharing it. well.... what happened to the sharing of responsibility for a beautiful future ?
They leave their wife to do the household chores ....... but appreciate the girls/women who are not/yet in that category or those who have simply walked out asking the helpers (aayas) to take over.
But when it comes to following the same (helper take over), then the question is of healthy environment and children's upbringing that matters and of-course the expense.
"People always think that the most painful thing is losing the one you love in your life. The truth is, the most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, forgetting that you are special too."
Today women are well educated and earn handsomely and can take care of children. They earn more or equivalent to men and can do well on their own. Yet for the sake of children most women give in and tolerate, not because they like it but as they do not wish to break their family or hurt their children.
But the younger girls (today's generation) are smart enough to walk out at the first step and prefer to be on their own. Most girls prefer late marriage or prefer to be independent financially, keeping an open option for themselves .
here's a piece of article I read and would like to share:-
Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons.
"Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40,........ there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old.
