Freedom ?

As time passes many things change, the basics remain the same only people and the circumstances change.  Like food, clothes, education, school, college, games and few other things.

Like rice, dal, veggies is what we still eat only the methods & few extra ingredients added here and there changed.  The clothes: trousers, shirts, shorts, skirts, salwar kameez, saree etc still exist only cuts/slits here and there have changed.  Education: we still learn A-Z, nos, grammer and few more things.  The schools & colleges are same but have added facilities.

Similarly our parents became grandparents, we parents & our children have taken our place.  The present generation is in such a hurry to attain freedom just so they can get their own way without anyone objecting them.  They don't see the responsibilities and  dangers which are awaiting them.

I too wanted to be independent in my 20s, but just financially and go out with friends for movie or outings once in a while which was objected most of the time. Parents don't think it is necessary to explain the strictness, the taboos or the dangers that lurk which is quiet frustrating.  Every-time the no...no was very irritating then.  But today I can understand, why the no...no

Freedom comes at a cost which no one explains.:

First of all one has to be financially independent, be in a position to pay the rent or buy a flat for self.

then learn to cook, at-least the basic :breakfast..... omelet, sandwich, tea/coffee, etc meals... rice, dal, any vegetable, soups etc.  (kids think ah! no problem we can always eat out, but how long can you survive on outside food or can your pockets afford).  If you spend all your money on outside food, shopping new clothes and outings, you will not have any savings, which means no money for major emergency/sickness.

then learn to clean your room, wash clothes, be prepared to clean your own dishes and most of all get disciplined. (as no one is going to set alarms for you, remind you to take your keys,  pick vegetables and other food stuffs, juices etc on your way back).

then the most important thing ensure to have good company of friends for no one's there to stop you from getting in trouble as the law spares no one.

Whenever any teenager talks about freedom I tell them, try being independent at home first, do your own chores etc etc, only then think of moving out.  

It is easier to stay back, let your family help you with your chores and look out for your safety while you enjoy life and step into adulthood, earning livelihood and saving few for a rainy day.

worring about daily chores, financial problems that slowly creep in, health problems due to smoking, drinking or unhealthy food.  The day to day stress slowly takes its toll on you. Being independent you are directly answerable to the law for your actions?  where is the freedom?

A little objection (no... no) is far better than the Freedom which takes its toll as he or she has to live with all the responsibilities when independent. Is it worth it ?

Would you call that freedom?

an un-slaughtered female child ?

Yesterday I saw Aamir's 'Satyamev Jayate' programme on Star plus. 'female foeticide'  a crime people chose to ignore, which is committed for ages in India by most educated people.  On the pretext of family name a female child is aborted before birth.

For the first time, a well -known personality decided to voice the 'female foeticide' strongly showing the world  'mirror of crimes' committed by them.  I hope at-least a few of them are ashamed of committing this act and the rest, stop and think about it.

It brings back few old memories of my childhood when my grandma, aunts and uncles, mom and dad spoke about always wanting a 'male child' and claiming 'a female child as a curse'.  I remember when I was pregnant, the blessings said 'may you be blessed with a boy'.

I always thought, how could my grandma, aunt, ma and m-i-law say that, when they themselves are females.  Had their mother and family members strongly felt the same and aborted them would they have been there in this world today or our very existence possible ?  People who think of a aborting a girl child should question the existence of their parents and grandparents ?  

Honestly, every man and woman should question their own existence ? 

as it is only because of his/her mother (an un-slaughtered/un-aborted), a female child who escaped the curse and gave birth to them.

reliving moments of life

Life is strange, one doesn't know who, how, when, where or what will happen next.

Many at-times we meet strangers and they leave a lasting impression in our life and when they go we miss them, wonder why they came in our life for we are not the same anymore, those moments spent with them become special.  We try to relive those moments and remember the smallest details, which might have been overlooked then.  Life moves on but it changes you forever.

I came across strangers who changed my perspective towards life, made me realize how important life is and to live and enjoy every moment of it.  Even today the words echo in my mind and the time spent with them are the most precious moments of my life.  Life can never be the same again and I will always miss them.

Similarly these little sparrows thought me lot of things, the six days were completely obsessed by them.  Now whenever I look at the trees and the sky I know they are there somewhere living their life.  I wonder if they will ever pass by my house again and remember me as being part of their life as they are mine ?

my little guests

few days ago I found 2 baby sparrows fallen from the nest outside my house, as they were little ones hopping around , I decided to take care of them.

i kept them near my window so their mother could see them, she would  come and feed them and make sure they were ok.  Sometimes I found her communicating ..... like chirp..chirp, chirp..chirp..chirp.  Every-time it sounded different, as if she was giving instructions, she would sit with food in her mouth on my window sill and chirp something and they would flutter their wings and try to rise up.

Very soon they learnt to fly, first... few inches above and then upto the parapet of the window.  As I was watching them one of them just flew away and later the other one too flew.  

I was happy to see them fly but in those last six days I got attached to them, watching them, making sure they were comfortable, eating enough, guarding them from crows I didn't know how and when they became part of my life.

Today I miss them, look out for them and hope they are flying and exploring their new world and beautiful nature.  They will always be part of my life now, no matter where they are.