Respecting Woman......

Respecting women : We humans treat our pair of eyes, hands and legs equally which enables us a healthy life.  Similarly if we treat our fe/male child as equal pair the world would be a beautiful place to live.

As a girl I would desire for :

Parents who are not eager to know the sex of their unborn child

Parents who are happy to have me as part of their family

Parents who treat me as equal to my brothers: love, care, educate, punish.. 

Don't: 

remind me of being a girl from time to time, 

loath me with dos and dont's, 

have different set of rules for me and my brothers, 

blame me for misfortunes in their life, 

and definitely don't treat me as liability.

Give me a sense of integrity with self respect, have confidence in me for who I am, encourage me to achieve my goals in life like my brothers;

Teach me to respect the nature and environment, all living beings: people: rich and poor, irrespective of their colour, religion or gender.

Also make me aware to defend myself when shown disrespect or threatened by anyone;

Ensure I get equal facilities in the world of sports or other activities which I wish to pursue [as you would for my brothers].

Treat me as a women as I grow up, while I am eager to pursue my life in the outside world on my own, 

Don't make me accountable for expenses incurred on me, give me my space and most of all Trust me for you mean the world to me.

Leashed by Ownership

Hi,

Sharing few of my thoughts, although people have different opinions on every aspect of life

The recent mass molestation on girls in Bengaluru, India

Was it any different from what happens in the other cities of India? Don't we read daily in our newspapers? every channel has a clipping, discussions, videos on women's abuse as daily 50 updates all over India. 

 

Discussions about Womens rights, dos and don'ts, how they should dress, what time is safe/unsafe for them to walk on streets, who should accompany them, which lanes are safe for them..... and so on

Some companies have introduced safety watches to leash them, (girls), so they can be located by their concerned members by triggering the watch signal, when they feel endangered or should we say fear of being molested, 

Each time I see/hear the advertisement, I now know how the dogs feel when leashed by his master to show his ownership.

Is it so difficult to teach our children: boy/girl that it is their right to treat each other with respect and right to their space in this world of humans.  That we all are here to co-exist.

Is the "older generation" never going to give girls/women their due respect, is the women at home to be treated as an object of ownership ? Respected only when obeyed and served to their Master's wishes?

I say "older generation" as they take pride in their culture, traditions and nurture.  Were they not the ones who passed the heritage of culture to the next generations, so what did they miss?  Why we have so many women abuses? Why is it not safe for  women to walk on streets anymore?

While few of the young girls and boys steal their rights to freedom by working in other cities or sneaking away from the eyes of their guardians, they fall prey to the untamed male distorted mindsets.

So when and how will it change? 

Who will connect the missing culture of respecting women?

Life ? did we miss something ?

hi,

for a long time now I haven't written anything, didn't feel like, 
days and nights pass by, nothing stops, life goes on

last year this time I was enjoying the rains, not much rain this year , still waiting for thunder showers........

life around me....... people are living life like a machine, busy earning and spending money, 

the older generation's spends life working :

works hard, saves money
takes loan, buys a house,

when they have children .......
feel the need to save more, for children's education

later,....when children complete education.are still worried...
for child's needs, to get a good job
as the cost of living is high
feel the need for another house
so their children can stay with their family.......

funny isn't it ............... 


Once the children are independent the first thought that comes to their mind is 'wish my parents were rich', forgetting the sacrifices seen to educate them to be what they are today.

Parents get so lost in their duties that they forget to live their lives, by the time they realise, its too late,

the next generation's life ......... is going to malls with children, shopping, partying...... or spending 18 hrs working on a laptop ... surfing, chatting with [strangers].  These parents blame their kids and switch off their tv while they glue themselves to laptops or mobiles and they all want to stay young, using artificial products...... 

what did all miss ? to enjoy Nature - long walks or watch children play  

if only we learned to value life :)  "LIFE"

 the only time people watch some game is on tv.  what happened to watching kids play and cheering them?
 

 
 

Blame it on.........?

For sometime now I have been observing.... ?

Children on streets .... in Mumbai as you travel around you see lot of children on streets, from 6 yrs onwards, fending for themselves sometimes cleaning the trains, begging on signals, selling articles in trains or just wandering around on streets.  Who are these children, did they just drop from sky, where are their parents or relatives, why are the children abandoned or struggling on their own ?

Just last month few volunteers came to collect donations representing a NGO, they said the money would go for rehabilitating the street kids, teaching them candle making, paper bags or some non-hazardous occupation.  As they need to fend for themselves or their family who depends on their income.

Is it really rehabilitation ?  are children below 14 yrs suppose to support or fend for themselves financially,  Does rehabilitating mean working in non-hazardous occupation?  Do we expect the same from children of well to-do families.

Who is to blame, the parents who don't hesitate giving birth to number of kids while they cannot have 2 full meals, and look forward to the child as means of financial support, or the people who don't hesitate donating money to these kids directly or indirectly as help.

Today there are equal number of people living on streets as in the buildings around. Mumbai is now a mini India where the trains, buses, markets, malls, roads, footpaths are overcrowded by sea of people.

how the city runs is a miracle, yes, people survive here, but at whose cost.... "a childhood lost"  Who is to be blamed ??

Isn't rehabilitation giving children a safe and sound environment, where they play, study and enjoy life without worrying.

 

Should a girl child be aborted ? Save a girl child ?

Do we really save her when people don't abort the female feotus........ many a times I wonder if it is true, is giving birth enough, does it end the problem, having an unwanted child, thrust upon by nature, law, ......... to a family who longs for a child (son) ?

Being a girl/women I feel it is not enough to just give birth until one fully accepts her as equal human, if not, saving a girl child is meaningless.

"Life of a girl child........... the fight begins, first during the pregnancy detection, if she passes that stage, then at birth, pedas instead of ladoos, it's a girl :( , sometimes that is also forgotten, then starts the expenses and compromise, 'as she has to get married to someone'."

The parents, treat her like a unwanted burden as she grows, blame her for losses incurred in life, watching them the other male/female members, brothers, uncles, aunts, neighbors don't hesitate to share the same treatment with her.

Only she is asked to compromise, take responsibilities, cooking, cleaning, live within means as a temporary member who has to go away to her husbands home.
Unlucky, when she marries someone who shares her parents thoughts, that a wife's place is only staying within the four walls and bearing sons as heirs . If not she is abused, silenced or shunned for ever.

Now a days parents come forward to lodge police complain in regard to their daughter's dowry death, are they not equally to blame for her death?  Did they not teach her to accept abuse and compromise on life each day?

Had they supported her and treated her as equal would she have been a victim?

As the brother's never see or realise her equal rights as human and her need to be respected and cared for, they continue to treat her with hatred and disregard.

Funny thing is as boys grow, they are attracted towards other girls who is someone's daughter and many a times during marriage they fight for dowry and wife's right in her parents property for equal share. 

Why doesn't that thought come with their own sister ?? when it comes to her, why is it that she doesn't have any rights? Who is to blame for this ?
  
There isn't a day when news channels report a women abuse in some form. In India almost every house a girl is abused in the form of daughter, sister, wife, only each day she fights just to live for another day of abuse.

Isn't it time we care, educate her for equal opportunities respect her as human and a future partner ? instead of seeing her as a burden or threat.  Aren't boys looking for a compatible partner in a wife ?? 

Peace is when time doesn't matter as it passes by......

youth is a gift of nature

but age is work of art

 

At 20 yrs of age

the will reigns

at 30 the wit

and 40 the judgement

 

the aging process

is a lot like grapes

some turn to vinegar

but the best turn to wine

 

You are as young as your self-confidence

and as old as your despair

In this life the old believe everything

the middle-aged suspect everything

and the young know everything

The longer we live the more we learn 

it is not who has the most

it is who makes the most of what he has

You have only to mumble a few words in church to get married

and 

a few words in your sleep to get divorced

 

It is up to us whether age brings wisdom

or age comes alone

just humour :)

 Quick wit
A woman and a man are involved in a car accident; it's a bad one. Both of their cars are totally demolished but amazingly neither of them is hurt.

After they crawl out of their cars, the woman says, "So you're a man, that's interesting. I'm a woman. Wow, just look at our cars! There's nothing left, but we're unhurt. This must be a sign from God that we should meet and be friends and live together in peace for the rest of our days".

Flattered, the man replied, "Oh yes, I agree with you completely! "This must be a sign from God!"

The woman continued, "and look at this, here's another miracle. My car is completely demolished but this bottle of wine didn't break. Surely God wants us to drink this wine and celebrate our good fortune."

Then she hands the bottle to the man. The man nods his head in agreement, opens it and drinks half the bottle and then hands it back to the woman.

The woman takes the bottle and immediately puts the cap back on, and hands it back to the man.
The man asks, "Aren't you having any?"
The woman replies, "No. I think I'll just wait for the police 
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Sexual Assault !
A couple goes on vacation to a fishing resort. The husband likes to fish at the crack of dawn. The wife likes to read. One morning the husband returns after several hours of fishing and decides to take a nap. Although not familiar with the lake, the wife decides to take the boat out. She motors out a short distance, anchors, and continues to read her book.

Along comes a game warden in his boat. He pulls up alongside the woman and says, "Good morning Ma'am. What are you doing?"

"Reading a book," she replies.

"You're in a restricted fishing area," he informs her.

"I'm sorry officer, but I'm not fishing, I'm reading." "Yes, but you have all the equipment. For all I know you could start at any moment. I'll have to take you in and write you up."

"If you do that, I'll have to charge you with sexual assault," says the woman.
"But I haven't even touched you," says the game warden. "That's true, but you have all the equipment. For all I know you could start at any moment." 

​Have a nice day ma’am and he left…..

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APARTMENT for RENT .....

A businessman met a beautiful girl and agreed to spend the night with her for $500.  Morning,  before he left, he told her that he did not have any cash with him, but he would have his secretary write a check and mail it to her, calling the payment 'RENT FOR APARTMENT.'

On the way to the office, he regretted what he had done, realizing that the whole event had not been worth the price. So he had his secretary send a check for $250 and enclose the following typed note:

'Dear Madam:
Enclosed find a check for $250 for rent of your apartment . I am not sending the amount agreed upon, because when I rented the place, I was under the impression that:

1 - it had never been occupied;
2 - there was plenty of heat; and
3 - it was small enough to make me feel cozy and at home.

    However, I found out that:
1. it had been previously occupied,
2. there wasn't any heat, and
3 - it was entirely too large.'

    Upon receipt of the note, the girl immediately returned the check  of $250 with the following note:-

"Dear Sir: 

I cannot understand how you could expect a beautiful apartment to remain unoccupied indefinitely.

• As for the heat, there is plenty of it, if you know how to turn it on.
• Regarding the space, the apartment is indeed of regular size, but if you don't have enough furniture to fill it, please do not blame the management. ​ ​

So please send the rent in full or we will be forced to contact your present landlady….."

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Who Says Men Don't Remember Anniversaries
A woman awakes during the night to find that her husband was not in their bed.

She puts on her robe and goes downstairs to look for him. She finds him sitting at the kitchen table with a cup of coffee in front him. He appears deep in thought, just staring at the wall. She watches as he wipes a tear from his eye and takes a sip of coffee.

"What's the matter, dear?" she whispers as she steps into the room. "Why are you down here at this time of night?"

The husband looks up, "Do you remember 20 years ago when we were dating, and
you were only 17?" he asks solemnly.

The wife is touched thinking her husband is so caring and sensitive. "Yes, I do," she replies.

The husband pauses. The words are not coming easily. "Do you remember when
you father caught us in the back seat of my car?"

"Yes, I remember," says the wife, lowering herself into a chair beside him.

The husband continues..."Do you remember when he shoved a shotgun in my face and said, "Either you marry my daughter, or I will send you to jail for 20 years".
"I remember that too", she replies softly.

He wipes another tear from his cheek and says... "I would have gotten out today!"
  

Condoms For Every Man
A man walks into a drug store with his 8-year old son. They happen to walk by the condom display, and the boy asks, "What's are these, Dad?"

To which the man replies, "Those are called condoms, son. Men use them to have safe sex."

"Oh I see," replied the boy pensively. "Yes, I've heard of that in health class at school."

He looks over the display and picks up a package of 3 and asks, "Why are there 3 in this package?"

The dad replies, "Those are for high-school boys. One for Friday, one for Saturday, and one for Sunday."

"Cool!" says the boy. He notices a 6-pack and asks, "Then who are these for?"

"Those are for college men," The dad answers, "TWO for Friday, TWO for Saturday, and TWO for Sunday."

"WOW!" exclaimed the boy. "Then who uses THESE?" he asks, picking up a 12-pack.

With a sigh, the dad replied, "Those are for married men. One for January, one for February, one for March..." 

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Most Relationships fail not because of the absence of love..
Love is always present..
Its just that,
One loves too much,   and  The other loves too many

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